“A highly developed value system is like a compass. It serves as a guide to point you in the right direction when you are lost.”
The direction of our lives is largely controlled by a supreme force – our values. Our values continually lead us to make our choices or our decisions. Those decisions guide us in the right direction and eventually, we reach our destination.
Values – The Driving force:-
“Try not to become a man of success, but a man of value. A man of value will give you more than he receives ”
Values are what you believe to be most important in your life. They are often referred to as personal guiding principles. Values vary from person to person. Remember under the influence of the conscious mind or under the influence of the sub-conscious mind our all activities are guided by our values. Values guide our behavior in all aspects of life. Our family life, professional life, peer group interactions, and all social activities are guided by values. The most common empowering values people follow are – love, success, passion, sound health, power, comfort, forgiveness, intelligence, creativity, etc. Some values we carry since childhood and some values we adopt as we grow up or in the hierarchy list the numbering position of a value may get change.
Here are some of the Most Important Benefits of Values –
- Values develop your belief mechanism – Values are some thoughtful forces that you think to be most important in your life. Values condition your mind and instill emotional sensations. Values build and reinforce your belief system stronger.
“ We are what we think about” .. Buddha
2. Values maintain a positive attitude –
Attitudes are the responses or expressions in thoughts, words or actions as a result of our values. Our attitude led by our values finally determines how we react to a situation, our ability to take challenges, and eventually to grow and learn …. learn and grow.
3. Values help you to find your purpose –
“The two most important days in your life are the day you are born and the day you find out why” – Mark Twain
‘Find out why’ is the purpose of your life. Unless you know what is important in your life you won’t be able to find the purpose.
4. Values teach you to act, not to react –
“Life is 10% what happens to you and 90 % how you react to it” – Louis Leo Holtz.
Values are guiding principles of your behavior. Your values direct you to respond to all situations, especially in the adverse situation.
5. Values make you confident –
When you know who you want to be then you start understanding what is important to you. You identify certain values, stick to them, builds your belief system even stronger, and become highly confident.
“ Know your values. Confidence breeds success.” – Mark M. Ford
6.Values help you to make decisions –
Remember, values are the operating principles that guide every decision you make. Your all decisions are guided by your values and therefore, your destiny.
Your values also help you to decide and act on certain negative emotional states like anger, frustration, disappointment, depression, failure, etc. so that you can move away from those sensations in your life and focus on only empowering systems.
7. Right values make you happy –
When you have a value-driven purpose in life, You take the right decisions guided by your values. Thus, you possess a positive attitude fueled by empowering values and as a result, you become confident. You learn to act and your actions bring results. So, the only way we can feel fulfilled and happy in long term is to stay aligned with our true values.
How to Control Your Value System ?
“It is not hard to make decisions when you know what your value is ”
Controlling and managing your value system are important. As discussed earlier certain values remain unchanged in our life, but some may get changed with time, priority, and as we age.
Remember, ranking in correct orders of the values may also change. At a young age, one value ‘happiness’ may be the first in your value list but in the later half of your life, that may get replaced by ‘better health’ in the same list of values.
So, taking control of your values is extremely critical and non-negotiable.
By following three simple steps you can take control of your value system –
Step 1 – Questions are powerful. Ask yourself what values need to be with you to be the person you always wanted to be and the destiny you truly desire and deserve.
Step 2 – Write down your current values in order of importance and conviction of your life. The basis of finding out the most important and least important values ask a very simple question to yourself that what is most important to you in your life?
Step 3 – Now, time to add or eliminate your values. Time to make a conscious decision. The decision to build up empowering value that will give you pleasure and disempowering value to remove your pain.
Concluding Remarks – Values give us goals and keep us away from anything that impacts our conscience. Values are the check posts that always show you the right direction in your life. Values reflect our sense of being right or wrong. Every day a lot of decisions we make are a reflection of our values and beliefs. So, are you willing to keep your value system even stronger?